tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post6081857475225999173..comments2024-02-26T04:55:34.428-08:00Comments on JennyRedbug: You're So Cute When You're Mad!" #BOAW2018Jennifer Silva Redmondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-64254265463960189952018-05-01T07:35:40.386-07:002018-05-01T07:35:40.386-07:00I just saw this post--somehow I missed it in March...I just saw this post--somehow I missed it in March, then was on posting a new blog post...Anyway, right on for you! I definitely agree that it is dismissive and disrespectful and glad to hear that you took charge of that situation. Keep fighting the good fight!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-52338501252880883282018-03-07T23:26:41.544-08:002018-03-07T23:26:41.544-08:00So. Much. This.
I've gotten the cute comment...So. Much. This. <br /><br />I've gotten the cute comment (I am kind of cute, but, as I'm sure you can believe, there's nothing at ALL cute about the way I feel when I'm seething!).<br /><br />My late husband was a wonderful guy, but, well into the second decade of our marriage, he still persisted in calling me "crazy lady" when disagreements got heated - despite the fact that there came a point where I had learned to quell the fury of my anger where he hadn't. <br /><br />At some point, I had enough of that, and told him I was no longer willing to accept that, because:<br /><br />a) I wasn't crazy, I was angry, and there was a reason for my anger I wanted to address;<br /><br />b) It's disrespectful and dismissive; and<br /><br />c) There is no real commeasurate male equivalent. Maybe "madman" - but it doesn't have nearly the same dismissive punch.<br /><br />Once I explained that a time or two, he stopped - and it made the last years of our marriage the best ones.<br /><br />Angry women aren't cute. We're mad. As you said, mad as hell - and we wouldn't be, if we were being treated with fairness. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-84812383650473566332018-03-07T12:17:36.460-08:002018-03-07T12:17:36.460-08:00Aren't they fabulous? I'm so happy!Aren't they fabulous? I'm so happy!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-10303330084407403852018-03-07T12:17:01.859-08:002018-03-07T12:17:01.859-08:00Glad we're in this "good fight" toge...Glad we're in this "good fight" together!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-8984789114592820692018-03-07T12:16:27.567-08:002018-03-07T12:16:27.567-08:00Right on, Erica! Loving people united will overcom...Right on, Erica! Loving people united will overcome hate and division!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-19319612871373546302018-03-06T08:40:57.985-08:002018-03-06T08:40:57.985-08:00I would just like to add that not only is Jenny...I would just like to add that not only is Jenny's original piece magnificent, but ALL of the comments from everyone are so inspiring and rewarding! A beautiful day to all!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02880221269507197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-50046643711704047352018-03-05T22:49:30.650-08:002018-03-05T22:49:30.650-08:00Loved your post! I have faced the hostile situatio...Loved your post! I have faced the hostile situations at work because of this symptom. This mentality needs to change and it's high time. Standing up to that is indeed beautiful.Swatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00476220179165646799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-6213781558867266122018-03-05T20:03:15.029-08:002018-03-05T20:03:15.029-08:00I'm so glad you addressed this! I think "...I'm so glad you addressed this! I think "you're so cute when you're mad" is one of the most atrocious sayings of all time and we've all been there before! The line about Trump not being the real problem really hit me because you're absolutely right. I love to sit around and trash talk Trump as much as the next person but at the end of the day he's just a symptom of the system. He's not the only person who thinks, feels and behaves that way. Apparently there are quite a few. Which is why our collective anger is more important and beautiful now than ever :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705437486396188608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-42272251391793530512018-03-05T16:21:42.245-08:002018-03-05T16:21:42.245-08:00And I think that is what is intended "aren...And I think that is what is intended "aren't you cute" is like saying "you are a little baby" or something. Ugh. Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-86609272259612630592018-03-05T16:20:42.046-08:002018-03-05T16:20:42.046-08:00Exactly -- call them out and then maybe say cute T...Exactly -- call them out and then maybe say cute THIS (with the appropriate gesture)!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-75993045912592876452018-03-05T13:35:58.345-08:002018-03-05T13:35:58.345-08:00You are sooo Spot On with this Jenny! I, myself, ...You are sooo Spot On with this Jenny! I, myself, disliked being told this by men. That has almost always made me feel like the man was attempting to diminish my power by saying that ... resulting in my standing up even stronger. YES ... #TimesUp, #MeToo, #EnoughIsEnough -- our rally cry, our voices, and our power!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02880221269507197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-7731209481935767512018-03-05T13:17:22.393-08:002018-03-05T13:17:22.393-08:00Jenny, I love this post so much! It's about ti...Jenny, I love this post so much! It's about time that women's anger wasn't belittled or framed as cute and then ignored. I love that your niece marched, too. I'm trying to teach my daughters that they can stand up for themselves and express their emotions. And if someone wants to call them "cute" for that, then they have a right to call them out on it.Diana Beebehttp://dianabeebe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-9251467099652125552018-03-05T12:05:36.754-08:002018-03-05T12:05:36.754-08:00I knew someone was going to REALLY relate to that ...I knew someone was going to REALLY relate to that line. You're so right... Let's rock this boat, girls!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-45188155481996106112018-03-05T12:04:42.151-08:002018-03-05T12:04:42.151-08:00I love that quote! Thanks for sharing and thanks f...I love that quote! Thanks for sharing and thanks for BOAW!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-456088208410546922018-03-05T12:04:11.108-08:002018-03-05T12:04:11.108-08:00I love Eleanor! So true...hear us roar!I love Eleanor! So true...hear us roar!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-6187099553394745242018-03-05T12:03:32.669-08:002018-03-05T12:03:32.669-08:00Absolutely. Being surrounded by like minds, and th...Absolutely. Being surrounded by like minds, and those who support and challenge us, helps in every phase of life.Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-44987738565578119372018-03-05T12:02:36.445-08:002018-03-05T12:02:36.445-08:00Hell yeah! Once again, it is time for us to evolve...Hell yeah! Once again, it is time for us to evolve as humans. Next stop equality for all!Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-75173292757473972532018-03-05T12:01:53.904-08:002018-03-05T12:01:53.904-08:00That is so true. Time to evolve! Thanks for commen...That is so true. Time to evolve! Thanks for commenting.Jennifer Silva Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043978480663414167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-50590709932963151562018-03-05T11:38:45.631-08:002018-03-05T11:38:45.631-08:00OMG... you just quoted one of the sentences I hate...OMG... you just quoted one of the sentences I hated most of many sentences on Earth: "You're so cute when you're mad." Last time I heard that I thought I had spit fire. (It might have been an illusion, but at this point I won't take anything for granted). I love your post and the basic beauty you built it on.Aurora Jean Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03237590542476547354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-20181674260181436692018-03-05T11:07:02.450-08:002018-03-05T11:07:02.450-08:00Oh, I love this! You've reminded me of one of ...Oh, I love this! You've reminded me of one of my favorite quotes of all time, from Gloria Steinem: "The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off." There is SO MUCH beauty in that anger, that work and that residual freedom. <br /><br />Thanks so much for the awesome contribution to the fest, Jennifer!August McLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02139612635096281822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-87407517038023203552018-03-05T10:27:50.304-08:002018-03-05T10:27:50.304-08:00Julie Garwood, in one of her old romance novels, T...Julie Garwood, in one of her old romance novels, The Secret, said something that resonated with me...”One whisper, added to a thousand others, becomes a roar of discontent.”<br /><br />Also, it was Eleanor of Aquitaine’s anger that almost lost Henry II his crown. One should never underestimate the power of an angry woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-77399697472366328532018-03-05T10:02:46.560-08:002018-03-05T10:02:46.560-08:00Thank you for this post, Jenny!! As a woman with a...Thank you for this post, Jenny!! As a woman with a bit of a temper, I've been scaring the bejesus out of men, singularly and collectively, for decades. Personally I've never gotten that line, because I'm not all that cute when I'm angry (ask my husband...lol). I also spent a couple of those decades as a counselor helping women get in touch with their anger and learn how to channel it effectively.<br /><br />I am so thrilled that as a group we are really standing up for ourselves like never before!Kassandra Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12868883056262771642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-54649293135211577592018-03-05T08:55:28.828-08:002018-03-05T08:55:28.828-08:00Can I say, "hell, yeah!" in response? Ou...Can I say, "hell, yeah!" in response? Our collective power as women can be scary to those who have held power for so long. The time for belittling women's emotions and anger is over. Audrey Kalmanhttp://www.audreykalman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-494402560788410111.post-30467474284136303212018-03-05T08:35:25.601-08:002018-03-05T08:35:25.601-08:00Great idea for a post, Jenny! There are so many ba...Great idea for a post, Jenny! There are so many barriers and stigmas around women's emotions. And it affects our country racially too. We tend to police emotions by black women much more than we do for white women. We have a lot of antiquated "leftovers" about how to act when we feel an injustice has been made. I love your ideas for how to get involved and be a gamechanger woman! <br /><br />And thank you also for donating your generous prize in the blogfest!! Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174957456720314423noreply@blogger.com